Emma runs half marathon in her husband's memory
PUBLISHED: 07:00 29 October 2017 | UPDATED: 09:03 31 October 2017
Hospiscare praised by Emma Gray, who ran the Great West Run to raise money for the charity.
A woman who lives close to Honiton has run a half marathon in memory of her late husband.
Emma Gray teamed up with fellow colleagues at Hospiscare to take on the Great West Run half marathon in Exeter earlier this month.
Emma’s late husband Simon died at Hospiscare in Exeter on July 11.
Just 38-years-old when he died, Simon had metastatic oesophageal cancer and he had been ill for almost four years.
Emma said: “Hospiscare was amazing with the support that they gave us.
“Simon was very unwell just after his diagnosis in January 2014, and we were immediately referred to the charity.
“We had support at home from Community Clinical Nurse Specialist Jayne Bramley, which was invaluable.”
To try and combat his illness, Simon underwent a harsh course chemotherapy and consolidation radiotherapy.
The treatment worked well enough for him to complete a bucket list of activities and holiday with his wife and daugthers.
Emma added: “What most people don’t realise is that Hospiscare is not just somewhere people go to die.
“It is a place that supports an individual to live their life as well as possible in difficult circumstances.”
She is now trying to spread messages to people going through similar situations.
“I have two messages that I would like to give people in a similar position,” she said.
“The first is something that a family counsellor told me, which is that grief is a process.
“You may not understand it, but you have to trust that you will come through it.
“When you have good days, try not to feel guilty, let yourself enjoy them and spread some sunshine.
“On the flip side, when the bad times hit you, which they will, please trust that at some point you will pull through.
“You will, at some point, wake up on a different day when life will seem easier.
“The second message is to be honest with yourself when you are struggling and accept help when it is given.
“I am rubbish at accepting help when it is offered up on a plate, let alone asking for help. However, I am aware that people desperately want to help and you must allow them to, however big or small the offer is.”