Grieving mum in grave concern

PUBLISHED: 08:26 10 September 2008 | UPDATED: 22:19 15 June 2010

OFFICIOUS keepers of Honiton Churchyard are heaping grief on grief" by victimising those who look after their loved one's graves that's the view of Alexis Richmond.

OFFICIOUS keepers of Honiton Churchyard are heaping "grief on grief" by victimising those who look after their loved one's graves - that's the view of Alexis Richmond, who has been told she can no longer light a small candle and wish her late son Jamie "goodnight".The churchyard management committee told the Herald it is caught between a rock and a hard place.Ever since Jamie died, in tragic circumstances, at the age of 21 four years ago, Alexis has religiously visited his grave every day."It's been a way of coping with my loss," she told the Herald."I was sent a letter to say items left on graves would be removed. It went to my old address and I had a feeling of dismay when I saw everything had been taken away."Alexis kept a Celtic cross, a small lantern and two small Pegasuses on the grave."The people who look after graves are the ones being targeted," said Alexis. "We've lost children."What they are doing is un-Christian and adding grief on grief."If I'd known this was going to happen, I wouldn't have put Jamie there. When I light a candle, it's like making his bed and saying goodnight."Team vicar the Reverend Allan Sheath said: "For some people putting a lantern, a toadstool or Disney character on a grave is appropriate. Other people come along and say it's tacky."All we do is refer people to the Diocese regulations to ensure anything put there is harmonious with the surroundings."We are stuck between a rock and a hard place.


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