Single parenting worked once …
PUBLISHED: 10:50 05 March 2008 | UPDATED: 21:35 15 June 2010
Terry Jankowski s letter about single parenting deserves attention. Critics of single parenting rarely consider that the Second World War created a single parent situation for many thousands of children of my generation.
Terry Jankowski's letter about single parenting deserves attention.
Critics of single parenting rarely consider that the Second World War created a single parent situation for many thousands of children of my generation.
My mother was effectively a lone parent during my formative years, five to 11, whilst my father was away fighting for our future.
We were fortunate in that my father returned from the conflict but thousands of children remained in a single parent situation because their fathers died.
My school days and early teens were relatively tranquil compared to the turmoil in today's society yet, clearly, there would have been a tremendous number of mothers not only raising children on their own but doing it on shoe string budgets.
There was not the same state support for anybody as we enjoy today. Every visit to a doctor was followed by a bill, just to give one example. I have no illusions about that period being a golden age. There were many hardships that we tended to take for granted but were uncomfortable nevertheless.
In many respect life has improved for everybody in this country in the 21st century.
Yet single parenting did not lead to the problems we see today on the streets and in the schools. It worked for many of my contemporaries in those dark days when times could be hard, so why should it be any different now where there is a loving and sensible parent.
Society's ills are too complex to be blamed on any one factor.
However, one thing which has changed from my childhood days is the perception that we have an economic need to constantly encourage, through a much extended media, a climate of covetousness, envy, greed and disatisfaction.
At least my single mother did not have to constantly battle against the designer gear pressures that beset the parent of today.